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Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts

Monday, June 20, 2011

to my hubby on father’s day

We knew, the day we walked down the aisle, that one day we would be making room in our little family for more, but did we know it would feel like this?

The first moments that we held her, and we felt that joy (and fear!) that descends over a new parent’s heart as they stare in wonder at the little person they are now responsible for, did you know how much your heart would grow?

I could not have imagined how much I would love our little girl, and how much joy it would bring me to see the two of you together.  The way she smiles for you, and the little ‘heel clicks’ that she does whenever you walk in the door melt my heart.

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She is the single greatest gift you have ever given me, and I hope you feel the same way.  I’m so glad I’ve gotten to share this journey into parenthood with you, and I am excited to see what the future holds for all of us.

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Thank you for being such a wonderful father and husband this past year and being a true partner to me as we adjust to the role of parents.

I love you!

Jen

Saturday, February 26, 2011

our first valentines day

Craig and I have been together for nearly 5 years, so clearly this wasn’t truly the first Valentines Day that has come and gone while we’ve been together, however this is the first time in nearly three years of marriage that Craig has been home for the day of Loooove.  In the way of all good wives, I sprinkled suggestions of what we could do and let him take the reins and do all the planning, and he surprised me with a trip to Ottawa, our Capital city.

I’ll let you know in advance that this post will be pretty picture laden!

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We stayed at the Marriot in downtown Ottawa on the 24th floor and could see the river, canal and some of the parliament buildings from our window. 

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We had a king sized bed and Emily (and Craig) loved the special bedding they had:

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We decided to go for a walk our first afternoon there before we went out for dinner, so we walked to the Rideau center (a mall) to buy me some new jeans and to browse around.  We’ve both been to the parliament buildings a couple of times (Craig worked a couple blocks from there when he was working in Ottawa for the Military during university), so we didn’t bother to stop there this year, but I did snap a few shots during our walk.

 

The Chateau Laurier Hotel:

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The Rideau Canal, frozen over to make a skating rink:

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A war memorial next to Parliament:

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The parliament buildings:IMG_0107IMG_0109

More offices of parliament:

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And a few more shots of our hotel.  It was Winterlude while we were there, so they had tons of ice sculptures everywhere, including a small ice village where they have club music and dancing each night.  Not meant for parents with babies in tow unfortunately.

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It got really cold in Ottawa while we were there, and Emily didn’t want to be covered up by her blankets, so we pushed the canopy of the stroller forward so it protected her from the wind at least.  Poor rosy little face!

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After that we went out for Valentine’s dinner at Red Lobster, including a 45 minute wait to be seated.  Emily was patient the whole time we waited at the bar and just sat on the table and played with her toys, but the second we got seated she was fussy and wanted to eat and sleep (in my arms).  Good thing I got coconut shrimp and could eat it with one hand!

The next morning we decided to go skating on the Rideau Canal. 

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I hadn’t had my skates sharpened since my second year of university (2005) so needless to say, my skates were a little dull.  In fact, they had patches of rust along the bottom of the blade and when I would try and glide they would catch and act like little brakes.  So below, I’m not pushing the stroller to be mama.  I’m holding on for dear life as every step I felt like I was going to face plant, which is embarrassing for someone who figure skated for years.

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And what’s a trip to Ottawa and the canal without a Beaver Tail?  Yummy!  I get the cinnamon sugar one with lemon to cut some of the sweetness.  Admittedly, there is one at the Village at Blue Mountain, 5 minutes from my house, but when in Rome Ottawa you know?!

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And of course Emily slept bundled up the whole time!

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Later that night we went to a hockey game.  I would like to preface this with the statement that we are die hard Leafs fans.  Or at least Craig is.  So do not hold it against us that we went to a Senators game while in Ottawa; we just wanted to watch some good hockey and it is cost us less than $200 for both tickets and would have been nearly $600 at a Leafs game.  ‘Nuf said.

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ZOMG! What’s that sound!  She may or may not have bit me while nursing during the game but there was lots of cheering and loud buzzers, so she gets a pass.

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Clearly our presence was not helpful to the Senators!

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We made it the 7 hour drive back home without too much fussing from the baby, in fact she did the first almost 4 hours sleeping.

Thank you to my hubby for a great mini getaway; hopefully sometime soon we can get away just the two of us!

Monday, December 13, 2010

marriage and parenting after deployment

I’m sure it’s no surprise to anyone that it has been a bit of an adjustment having Craig at home full time now.  After 7 months with only weekends together for workup training (hello Emily!!) and 8 months apart for deployment, we’ve been doing the long distance thing for quite a while now. 

Sharing the job of parent has been both easy and difficult for me.  I love having him home to help take care of her so I can do something simple like eat dinner or have a shower, but sometimes when he’s holding her and she’s smiling and laughing, I get jealous.  I’m used to getting all of the smiles and snuggles and it’s hard to share because I feel like I put in all of the hard work to get them. Not his fault, it’s just how I’m feeling.

Craig is off of work on vacation until the beginning of March, so we will be spending most of our days inside hanging out as a family during this blustery winter.  Even though he is home 24/7 at the moment, I don’t really get the feeling that he understand that taking care of Emily is still a full time responsibility for me.  Despite the fact that I’m currently a stay-at-home-mom (duration beyond a year TBD), and it should be my responsibility to take care of our home, if he’s sitting around the house all day, I feel like he should be responsible for half of the work.  Is that unreasonable?

I’m trying to be patient and understand that he’s still adjusting to being at home and I shouldn’t push lots of responsibilities at him, but it’s hard!  My eye gets a little twitchy every time he offers to hold the baby so I can ‘clean up the house a little’.  When is it appropriate to tie him to a chair and draw him a chart of HIS/HERS responsibilities for the next 2.5 months.

You’ll get no argument from me that I will be responsible for taking care of the house when he’s back to work full time, but right now when we’re both at home all day?  It should totally be 50/50. Right?  Please tell me I’m not just being a nag!

During his decompression, Craig was told two important points.  1. It’s important not to criticize how your spouse has been running the household (alone!) during the tour, and not to come back and try and change everything.  He’s been pretty good about not criticizing, now I just need the participating!  2. Being nagged about stuff can also make it difficult to reintegrate into the home easily.  I have been TRYING (perhaps not very successfully!) not to nag him about things.

Is readjusting always this rocky?  I think it’s made worse because I got so used to doing it all myself while he was gone and was looking forward to a partner in parenting around the house, and like in all other parts of life, as a guy, Craig has some different ideas.  Coming to a compromise has never been our strong suit, but hopefully our time at home together will help us make some changes for the better.

I don’t want anyone to think that Craig and I are struggling in our marriage – we’re still honestly happy as clams just to be back together.  Expectations always make things harder though; both of us built up what we thought things would be like as parents and as a couple once we were back together and now that it’s not working out as perfect as we imagined, we’re adjusting. Slowly.

Can I just say again how happy I am to have my man home?  It’s so nice to figure these ups and downs out together instead of over the webcam and email!

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